Escort Service FAQ

The Escort Service Terms and Slang Dictionary

The following escort words are often used to describe various sexual activities in escort ads. Each escort sex term is followed by a definition and every escort abbreviation is explained.

Top ten most frequently used terms in the escort service context

1. A-Level / Greek
2. BBBJ
3. CIM
4. DATY
5. DFK
6. GFE
7. MSOG
8. PSE
9. Russian
10. Safe

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3G

Get In. Get off. Get out.

411

Information, intelligence, intel. e.g. “I got the 411 on her from hobbyhorse”. In the context of online forums requests for information about ASPs are labeled “411“, e.g., “411 Redhead Rianna”.

420 or 420 friendly

An ASP that will smoke marijuana with you. A bit of advice: Adding drugs to your hobbying mix tends to give you a MUCH larger profile on Uncle Leo’s radar. An ASP who has a rep for being 420-friendly is likely getting way more attention from Uncle Leo than the more conservative hobbyists would prefer.

69

Mutual, simultaneous oral sex.

$

The dollar sign (or collection of dollar signs) is sometimes used imply the price range of the services offered/provided. E.g., $ = $100, $$ = $200, $$$ = $300 and so on. Often .5 signifies $50, so $$.5 would mean $250.

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Escort terms starting with A

AAMP

Apartment-based Asian massage parlor, as opposed to a commercial establishment.

ABC

American-born Chinese, also known as “banana”: yellow outside, white inside.

ABJ

American-born Japanese.

AC/DC

Bisexual.

A-Level

British parlance for anal sex. See also Greek.

abrasion

Rubbing the body with a variety of materials from raw silk to leather to sandpaper.

adult baby creche

A parent-child roleplay with one participant taking care of another. Also called ageplay, it can include the wearing and changing of diapers as well as bottle feeding.

agency

An organization or individual that manages many providers. The agency handles all calls, bookings and advertising. The agency takes a percentage of the fee for each session.

Ageplay

Scenes in which at least one participant pretends to be significantly younger than he or she actually is.

All covered

Also all covered play. With condom.

amazon

A tall, strong, often masculine woman.

AMP

Asian Massage Parlor.

animal play

Animal transformation fantasy: Games and scenes in which the sub (bottom) acts or dresses like a dog, cat, horse, etc. See ponyboy, ponygirl.

AO

Will see Asian clients only.

ASP

Adult Service Provider.

analingus

aka “Asian”: oral stimulation of the anus.

Around The World

1. Rimming. Oral sex on the anus of either sex, analingus
2. Three acts in a session: oral, vaginal and anal
3. Analingus and fellatio

Asian

Oral sex on the anus of either sex, analingus, aka rimming, DATO.

Asian Cowgirl

cowgirl with girl squatting.

ATF

All Time Favorite.

ATM

Ass To Mouth. Penis, finger or toy comes out of receiver’s anus, and goes directly into receiver’s mouth.

attempts

Trying to reach orgasm. e.g. ASP allowed multiple attempts: means the ASP allows more than one orgasm per session if the client is able and interested.
aka MSOG.

Aunt Flo

Menstruation, period. ‘Being visited by Aunt Flo‘.

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B&D

Bondage and Discipline.

B&S, bait & switch

Describes a situation where ASP advertisements, which may include photos, written or verbal descriptions, do not match the ASP who shows up, or which has been grossly misrepresented the ASP.

babyback

Petite, young, attractive Asian woman.

baby dyke

A young lesbian or someone who is just coming out of the closet.

bag

Condom, with a condom, e.g. “BJ in a bag” = CBJ or “I filled the bag” = orgasm.

Baja Sur

Genitals. From the Spanish “the low south”.

balloons

Breast implants.

bare back, bareback, BB

Without a condom. Depending upon context it may be used as shorthand for intercourse without a condom (BBFS).

barracuda

An ASP whose only purpose is to separate you from your money as quickly as possible, preferably without giving you anything in return.

Batin

Groin massage, but sometimes means hand job (from Malaysia).

BBBJ

Bare Back Blow Job. fellatio without a condom; aka “un-translated French” (UTF).

BBBJNQNS

Bare Back Blow Job No Quit No Spit; oral sex performed to completion with swallowing.

BBBJTC

Bareback Blowjob To Completion. Oral stimulation of the penis to orgasm without a condom. (May spit or swallow), aka CIM.

BBBJTCWS

Bare Back Blow Job to Completion with Swallowing.

BBBJWF

Bareback Blowjob With Facial.

BBFS

Sexual intercourse without a condom.

BBK

Big beautiful knockers.

BBW

Big Beautiful Woman. An escort, ASP, who caters to clientele that prefer overweight, obese women.

BCD

Behind Closed Doors. Often used to mean activities that will be described to a privileged listener or nobody at all.

BDSM

Bondage, Discipline, Sado-Masochism. This is a catch-all to refer to the various aspects of negotiated, mutually consensual exchange of power between two consenting adults. Regardless of the depth of the relationship, consent, safety and sanity are the cornerstone of this lifestyle.

Bear

A large hairy (homosexual) man.

beard

A person of the opposite sex who marries or dates a closeted lesbian or gay person to cover up their homosexuality. In the past, often lesbians married gay men so that both could “pass” as straight, either for work or for their families.

beret

A condom.

BF

boyfriend.

BFE

Boyfriend Experience, A subjective term used primarily by ASP to describe good clients.

birdwatching

BBBJTCWS or CIM and ASP swallows. See BBBJNQNS, NQNS.

bisexual

A person who is sexually and emotionally attracted to both women and men.

blackhole

Anus.

blue pill or blue steel

Viagra.

BJ

Blow job, fellatio, French. Oral stimulation of the penis.

BL

Body Lick.

BLS

Ball Licking and Sucking.

BNG

Blow-n-go, a 15-minute oral-only session.

Body-Rub

A massage or massage-like service. Used instead of “massage”, usually to indicate sexual stimulation (usually a handjob) is included and the person performing the service is not licensed as a massage therapist, aka FBSM, Sensual Massage.

Bondage chair

A piece of furniture, sometimes a very complex one, with varying number of restraints to keep a sub at dom’s mercy.

Boston Marriage

In the late nineteenth century, it was common for two unmarried women to share a home. Many women, particularly those who were college educated, lived in long-term unions with other women. These relationships became known as “Boston Marriages”.

Bottom

In homosexual parlance: the passive partner. In BDSM: the submissive.

Breath control

A type of BDSM play in which the Dom controls the Sub‘s access to oxygen. Can be dangerous.

brown eye

Anus.

brown shower

Defecation on your partner.

BS or body slide

Service where the ASP may slide their body on the client’s body using oil.

BSB

Bus stop babe.

bukkake

A variety of fetish that involves repeated ejaculation of a female by many men. See also gokkon.

bulldagger

A term that was used in the 1920s to define a very butch lesbian. Often African American.

bulldyke

A very masculine lesbian.

businessmen-only, gentlemen-only or professional-only

A subjective request used in ASP advertising as a pre-screen for clients. The ASP posts this in hopes of attracting “better” clientele.

butch

A woman who adopts what would be considered masculine characteristics. Also a masculine homosexual.

butter face

A women whose body is very attractive, but her face is not. Everything looks good but ‘er face.

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Camp

Effeminate male – from KAMP, Known As Male Prostitute.

canine, K9

See Doggy style.

cash and dash

A rip-off. The person posing as an ASP shows up, takes your money, doesn’t provide any services or might offer to “dance” (but more often than not does not), and leaves with the cash, aka dance and dash, ROB.

CBJ

Covered Blow Job. Blowjob or with a condom on, aka translated French (TF).

CBT

Cock and ball torture: application of clamps, cages, weights, wax, etc to male genitals as either punishment or tease and denial. Can be dangerous.

CC Rider

An ASP who is FS for $200/hr or less. The “CC” bit is the Roman numeral for 200.

CCL

Concentration Camp Look.

CD

cross-dresser.

 

1. A person, and especially a male who adopts the dress and often the behavior typical of the opposite gender especially for purposes of emotional or sexual gratification.
2. A person who sometimes wears the clothing and aesthetics of a gender other than the one they typically wear in their daily lives. See also transvestite

CDS

Covered Doggy Style.

CFM

Come Fuck Me, usually refer to the look of a person.

CFS

Covered Full Service. Sexual intercourse (coitus) with a condom.

CG

Cowgirl: she’s on top facing you.

Chump

A man who gives his money and/or his attention to women without getting any pussy in return. Largely a phenomenon experienced by American men when dating American women.

CID

Cum In Deep. The provider lets you come inside her with no condom. See BBFS.

CIH

Cum in Hair.

CIM

Cum In Mouth (in the context of fellatio without a condom (UTF/BBBJ)), see also NQNS, BBBJTC.

civilian

A person who makes them self available for sexual encounters but not for financial gain. May be less discreet than an ASP and more interested in a relationship. Not to be confused with non-pro.

CL

Craig’s List. The classifieds board of the internet, and formerly a free place for providers to advertise. Not so much a of player since the removal of Adult and Erotic services.

clock watcher

An ASP who counts the minutes until the session is over. Usually used to describe an ASP who rushes and does not enjoy her work.

CMD

Carpet Matches Drapes (typically a natural blonde).

CMP

Chinese Massage Parlor.

CMT

Certified Massage Therapist. Generally a CMT is not an ASP. While an ASP specializing in massage services might be a CMT, it is unwise to assume a CMT is an ASP. Very unwise.

COB

Cum On Body. Man ejaculates on a woman’s body.

COF

Cum On Face. Man ejaculates on woman’s face, aka face painting or facial.

COH

Cum on Hair.

Cottage

To cottage: to look for sexual partners in public bathrooms. Synonym: to cruise.

coitus

Sexual intercourse characterized by the male penis entering the female vagina.

collar and cuffs match

A euphemism to indicate that pubic hair color matches color of the hair on the head; natural hair coloring. Sometimes also referred to as ‘carpet & curtains match’.

COM

Cum Over Mouth (in the context of fellatio without a condom (UTF/BBBJ)). Lots of women hate swallowing so use the term C-0-M instead of C-I-M.

commercial company

a euphemism for prostitution generally used by truckers.

completion

Orgasm. e.g. Bareback blowjob to completion.

cover

A condom.

covered

Various measures, such as the use of condoms or dental dams, are taken to avoid sexually transmitted diseases. (e.g. Covered Blowjob means a condom was used.).

Cowgirl

‘Girl on top’ position for sexual intercourse. Sometimes abbreviated CG (though this can be confused with the abbreviation for Call Girl as well. Mind the context for clarification.).

crime scene action

Sexual activity during the provider’s period (while menstruating). See also red wings.

crone

The word “crone” was (and in some circles still is) a derogatory term for an old woman. In the 1970s, during the feminist movement, lesbians began to adopt the word crone to mean a wise older woman. Today, in lesbian and feminist circles, a crone is a wise older woman whose life experience demands that she be treated with respect.

cruising

Looking for prostitutes while driving. Cyber-equivalents aren’t hard to imagine. Also, in homosexual slang, this is the same as “cottaging“.

crushing

Fetish relating to dominance and control; a desire to see small, defenseless animals crushed under women’s high heels.

cunnilingus

Oral stimulation of a woman’s genitalia. ‘giving head’ to a woman. ‘going down on’ a woman.

cups of coffee

Orgasms, e.g. multiple cups of coffee means the provider allows more than one orgasm.

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dance and dash

A rip-off. The person posing as an ASP shows up, takes your money, doesn’t provide any services or might offer to “dance” (but more often than not does not), and leaves with the cash. See cash and dash, ROB.

DAP

Digital anal probe, see digital penetration, aka digits.

date

(1) A session with an ASP. (2) A person who patronizes an ASP.

date rape drug

Rohypnol (generic name flunitrazepam) has been associated with date rape, and has also been called the “Forget Pill,” “Trip-and-Fall,” and “Mind-Erasers.” In combination with alcohol, it can induce a blackout with memory loss and a decrease in resistance. Girls and women around the country have reported being raped after being involuntarily sedated with Rohypnol, which was often slipped into their drink by an attacker. The drug has no taste or odor so the victims don’t realize what is happening. About ten minutes after ingesting the drug, the woman may feel dizzy and disoriented, simultaneously too hot and too cold, or nauseated. She may experience difficulty speaking and moving, and then pass out. Such victims have no memories of what happened while under the drug’s influence.

DATO

Dining At The O. Analingus, oral stimulation of the anus. See also rimming and Asian.

DATY

Dine At The “Y”; cunnilingus.

DDE

Doesn’t Do Extras. Implies the ASP has a very limited and stringently adhered to menu.

DDF

Drug and Disease Free.

DDG

Drop Dead Gorgeous.

DDP

Double Digit Penetration (vagina and anus).

deep throat or DT

fellatio where the whole length of the penis is “swallowed”.

defender

A hobbyist who defends or “comes to the rescue” of a provider who has been reviewed or spoken of poorly, regardless of whether the review or comments are accurate, aka White Knight.

deposit

a payment in advance of a session. Deposits are usually used by ASPs as a hedge against no-shows.

DFE

Dead Fish Experience.

DFF

Dead Fish Fuck.

DFK

Deep French Kissing. Kissing with deep, substantial tongue contact.

diesel dyke

A very butch or manly lesbian, especially one who is very aggressive.

digital penetration

Insertion of the fingers (or toes) in the vagina or anus for the purpose of sexual stimulation. This has nothing to do with the insertion of digital devices up anyone’s orifice—hold on to those iPads!

Dirty Sanchez

When two people engage in anal sex, then the person who has been ‘giving it’ to the other’s ass takes his penis or penis-like implement and rubs it on the other person’s upper lip leaving a moustache.

DIY

Do It Yourself (masturbation). See also self-service.

doggie style

Rear entry position for sexual intercourse. See Spanish.

Dominant

In BDSM, a person who administers the training to a submissive. Often shortened to Dom.

donation

A euphemism for a payment to an ASP. Generally considered a feeble dodge against legal concerns: after all if you are giving the ASP a donation or gift, you are not paying for sex.

double penetration

when a person (generally a female) has two objects (generally penises) simultaneously inserted in any two of the mouth, anus or vagina (most commonly the anus and vagina).

doubles

A threesome with two ASPs.

DP

1. Double Penetration
2. Digital Penetration

Drag king

A woman who dresses to look like a man, usually for performance. Drag kings are often lesbian, but not always.

Drag queen

A male who dresses like a female, usually for performance.

DS

doggiestyle.

DSL

Dick-sucking lips.

DT or deep throat

fellatio where the whole length of the penis is “swallowed”.

dyke

Another word for lesbian. Usually is only used by people who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or trans. A straight person using this word may offend some people.

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ED

Erectile Dysfunction.

EE

Erotic Enema.

Ellie

Law Enforcement. The euphemism stems from the fact that people would refer to Law Enforcement with the abbreviation, “LE”. When expressed phonetically it was confused with the female name, “Ellie“. Since confusion and chaos rule despite people’s best efforts—.

EMA

Extra-Marital-Affairs. Affairs after marriage, but before divorce.

EMP

European Massage Parlor (white girls).

English

Segment of bondage and discipline; including spanking /whipping.

enhancements

Implants, most commonly breast implants, but sometimes penile implants (depending upon context).

envelope

Often cash payments for an ASP’s services are placed in an envelope. Rather than handing the ASP cash directly, or discussing money, the envelope is left in a conspicuous location for the ASP to discreetly pick up.

EOM

End of Message. Used in a subject line of a forum post to indicate no further content in body of message—where the title is intended to be sufficient.

escort definition

An escort is an Adult entertainer who is compensated for his or her time and companionship.

escort mall, mall

A website that advertises many different ASPs. The ASPs may be independent or agency, and may or may not be associated with
each other, or with the mall.

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F2F

A female doing something to (providing a service for) a female.

f2m

A female doing something to (providing a service for) a male.

face painting

Man ejaculates on woman’s face, aka facial or COF.

face sitting

In BDSM, a form of erotic humiliation, whereby the dom sits on the face of a sub to force oral-genital or oral-anal contact.

facial

Man ejaculates on woman’s face, aka face painting or COF.

Fag hag

A woman who likes homosexual males.

Fairy

A male homosexual.

FBSM

Full Body Sensual Massage. A massage usually ending with a hand job. Often times the provider is nude or topless, aka Body Rub, Sensual Massage. Spelled “FBSM+”, means “with a bonus” and usually means a BJ.

fellatio

Oral stimulation of the penis, aka Blow Job (BJ), ‘giving head’ (f2m or m2m).

femme

A feminine lesbian, cf. butch.

FDAU

Face down, ass up.

FFF

The strategy of “Find them, Fuck them, Forget them”.

fisting

The act or art of putting a fist in an anus or vagina. Apparently a very popular practice among more evolved (kinky) gays. It requires great care and huge amounts of lubrication.

FIA

Finger In Ass.

FIR

Finger In Rear.

Fire and ice

providing a blowjob with the mouth filled alternately with hot tea and ice.

FIV

Finger In Vagina, digital stimulations.

Five-O

A police officer (uniformed or undercover). The cultural reference stems from the 1970’s TV show “Hawaii 5-O”, which derived its name from the name for Hawaii State Police force.

FJ

Foot Job. Stimulation of the penis using feet and toes.

FK

French Kissing.

FKK

Frei Körper Kultur, German nudist subculture.

FL

Free Lance.

flake

One who exhibits flaky or erratic behavior. Often used to describe ASPs or hobbyists who no-show and/or have scheduling issues.

FMF

Threesome designation: female, male, female.

FOB

Fresh off the boat, a recent immigrant.

FOBU

Fat-Old-Bald-Ugly.

FOTC

Fuck Of The Century.

FOV

Finger Outside Vagina.

FR

Field Report, Fuck Review.

Foot fetish

aka Foot warship – intense sexual interest in the shape, size, smell, texture and other characteristic of a foot.

French

Oral stimulation of the penis. Fellatio. “Translated” = with a condom. “Untranslated” = without a condom.

French Kissing

Kissing on mouth with tongue contact

French letter

Condom.

FS

Full service. Sexual intercourse (coitus) to completion.

FTF

Fun To Fuck.

FUD

Fear, Uncertainty and Doubt. What some (asshole) posters try to spread when they post on public forums with false accusations of LE activity and STD outbreaks.

full meal deal

Sexual intercourse (coitus) to completion, aka Full Service.

FUTB

Finger Up The Butt.

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Gayborhood

A gayborhood is a gay-friendly neighborhood or an area of town where gays and lesbians are known to live.

Gaydar

The ability to determine who is and isn’t gay.

Gay dirt

An attractive young male used by the police to entrap homosexuals.

gender expression

The physical manifestation of one’s gender identity, usually expressed through clothing, mannerisms, and chosen names.

gender identity

A person’s internal sense of being a man or woman or boy or girl. For transgender people, their gender identity will not match the gender with which they were born.

gender identity disorder

A term used by physicians and psychologists to classify people who are transgender or transsexual.

gender variance

Behavior that is different from traditionally defined “masculine” in males and “feminine” in females.

genderqueer

Someone who transgresses boundaries of gender identity and sexual orientation.

gentlemen only

businessmen-only or professional-only. A subjective request used in ASP advertising as a pre-screen for clients. The ASP posts this in hopes of attracting a “better” clientele.

Get brain

Receive a blowjob.

get comfortable

Get naked. As a feeble dodge of law enforcement, an ASP may ask a client to “get comfortable” or “make yourself comfortable” before a session, this means to get fully undressed.

GF

Girlfriend.

GFE

Girlfriend Experience. A frequently used, but utterly nebulous term. It refers to a session that is more like lovemaking with a girlfriend than a commercial service, whatever that means! It generally implies more about the tone & tenor of the session than about specific services provided, but many believe GFE should include the possibility of DFK, DATY, UTF and a broad array of FS positions.

GF3

Girlfriend experience with all three holes.

girl crush

When two women have strong feelings for one another, but not in a sexual way. A girl crush is strong infatuation that one woman has for another woman who seems beautiful, sophisticated, charming or accomplished. It usually refers to heterosexual women.

Glory hole

A literal hole in the wall between two spaces. The legendary purpose of this hole is to insert one’s penis in hopes of receiving an anonymous (this is the main thrill) handjob, blowjob or coitus.

glove

condom.

GND

Girl Next Door.

GOG

Girl-On-Girl.

gokkon

A variety of fetish that involves swallowing and/or ingesting copious amounts of semen by either a man or a woman. See also bukkake.

Golden shower, GS

Urinating on your partner, urine play. See also water sports.

Gold star lesbian

A lesbian who has never slept with a man and has no intention of ever sleeping with a man.

Gorean

A BDSM subculture owing its existence to the world of Gor from the novels by John Norman. Gorean philosophy assigns stereotypical, “natural” roles to genders.

Greek

anal sex; anal sexual intercourse; penetration of the anus by the penis.

GSM

G-Spot Massage.

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Half & Half

BJ followed by FS; a combination of both oral sex and sexual intercourse; fellatio & coitus.

Handballing

Inserting a fist (optionally – with a part of the forearm) into the rectum.

hard sports

Giving or receiving. Playing with feces, also known as scat play or brown showers.

Hardwood floors

Clean-shaven pubic area.

Hasbian

A woman who used to identify as a lesbian and dated women, but is now dating men.

hat

condom.

HC

High Class.

HDH

High Dollar Hottie.

HE

Happy Ending: usually a handjob or a blowjob after a massage.

Herb friendly

Is amenable to marijuana use, aka 420 friendly. A bit of advice: Adding drugs to your hobbying mix tends to give you a MUCH larger profile on Uncle Leo’s radar. An ASP, who has a rep for being herb friendly likely is getting way more attention from Uncle Leo than the more conservative hobbyists would prefer.

HH

Half Hour.

HHHJ

Half Hearted Hand Job.

hidden charges

An ASP takes the advertised fee upfront, but in the midst of the session she asks for more money for more services. (e.g. She might undress and give a massage for the advertised $$, but then ask for an additional $ for French, or $$ for FS, etc.), aka upselling.

Hindu massage

The woman contracts her vaginal muscles during sex to squeeze you to completion (Argentina).

HJ or Handjob

Masturbation; hand & finger stimulation of the penis by the ASP, aka hand release, manual release.

HM

High Mileage. A derogatory reference to the number of sexual partners a person may have had. Conveys an implication of showing the ‘wear and tear’ of the said mileage.

HME

Honeymoon Experience. Supposedly better than a GFE, and even more nebulous. It refers to a session that is comparable to the intensity and passion of lovemaking while on one’s honeymoon. Mostly marketing hype.

hobby

Slang, euphemistic reference to the business of a client enlisting the services of an ASP.

hobbyist

Slang, euphemistic reference to one who (actively) participates in ‘the hobby‘.

homophobia

Fear or dislike of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people.

hooker

Prostitute.

Hostess club

A lower end strip club where bargaining for sex acts with the dancers is acceptable, and some activities may occur on premises.

Hotdogging

Also hotdoggin’. The pseudo-sexual act of placing the penis between the butt cheeks of the receiving partner. The penis being the “Hotdog” and the butt cheeks being the “Bun”. There is no intercourse, and usually no ejaculation. This is mainly a comical practice, and usually enjoyed by the giver more than the receiver. See also Italian.

HTUMA

Her/His Tongue Up My Ass, analingus.

human ashtray

Waste receptacle at the services of superior human beings.

humiliation

Actions aimed to cause a submissive a feeling they long after. These are the things they normally don’t do, like wearing bizarre clothing, having sex in public, playing puppy or pony, or accepting verbal abuse.

Hustler

A male prostitute. Same as punk.

HWP

Height and Weight Proportional. “Normal” build.

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Incall

Client meet the ASP at her location.

independent, indie

An ASP who works on her own, without an agency affiliation. The ASP manages her own calls, bookings, advertising and finances.

interpreter

Condom (e.g. She spoke French without the aid of an interpreter = BBBJ).

intersex

A person born with ambiguous genitalia or genitalia of both sexes. Used to be called hermaphrodite.

IPO

Initial Public Offering. Used to denote the public introduction of a new ASP, usually via a review.

ISO

In Search Of. A post/inquiry looking for something (presumably ‘something’ specific).

Italian

Similar to Russian, but the penis is placed between the partner’s butt cheeks. See also hotdogging.

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Jack Shack

An establishment (massage parlor, lingerie modelling) that is not usually full service; expect only massage (usually nude or topless) and hand job, but more services might be available.

Jimmy Hat

A condom.

John

A man who patronizes prostitutes, a hobbyist.

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K9

Canine, or doggy style.

Kama Sutra or Kamasutra

A Sanskrit treatise setting forth rules for sensuous and sensual pleasure, love, and marriage in accordance with Hindu law.

KGFE

Korean GFE: with CBJ rather than BBBJ.

Kitty

Vagina and/or surrounding areas. The words you can expect to see used together with K. are “bald”, “partly shaven”, “trimmed”, “natural”.

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L/A/S

Looks/Attitude/Service: A subjective ranking system where each criteria is separately ranked, from lowest (1) to highest (10). Examples: 2/9/8 = Unattractive, but very friendly and good sex. 10/5/4 = Model material, but a poor attitude, and mediocre sex.

LASER

Same as above + Expense and (would or wouldn’t) Repeat.

labrys

A double-sided axe that the Amazons were said to use as their main weapon. Lesbians have adopted the labrys as symbol of power and independence. Many lesbians wear necklaces or earrings with a labrys symbol as a way to identify themselves to other lesbians.

Landing strip

A style of pubic hair sculpting resulting in a narrow vertical strip.

Lapdog

A hobbyist who worships an ASP to excess.

Lay down doggie

Also lazy dog. Doggie style with woman flat on stomach.

LD

Lap dance.

LDL

Low dollar looker, the opposite of HTH.

LE

Law Enforcement.

LEO

Law Enforcement Officer.

lesbian

A woman who is sexually and emotionally attracted to other women.

LFK

Light French Kiss. Kissing with only light tongue involvement.

LGBT

An abbreviation for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender.

Lipstick lesbian

A woman who loves other women, but also loves her clothes and makeup and shoes. She tends to dress on the femme side.

Little blue helper

Viagra.

LK

Light Kissing (closed mouth).

LMP

Licensed Massage Practitioner. See also CMT. Can also mean “Latin Massage Parlor”.

LMT

Licensed Massage Therapist. See also CMT.

Lone Star Lesbian

A woman who has only had sex with one other woman in their life. Straight and bisexual people can be Lone Stars as well, but Lone Star Hetero doesn’t sound nearly as interesting.

LOS

Land of smiles, Thailand.

lot lizard

A prostitute that works primarily in truck stop parking lots (usually soliciting from a CB radio).

LPIN

Legal prostitute in Nevada.

LTR

Long Term Relationship. When an ASP drops out of the business for a very substantial stipend, paid weekly, or monthly for exclusivity she is said to be in a long term relationship. See also sugar daddy.

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m2f

A male doing something to (providing a service for) a female.

m2m

A male doing something to (providing a service for) a male.

Madame

Proprietress of an agency.

Maid

In a British parlour, the person who answers the phone and books the schedule.

Mall

Also escort mall. A website that advertises a variety of escorts or ASPs. The ASPs may be independent or agency, and may or may not be associated with each other, or with the mall.

Mamasan

Female manager of an asian massage parlor.

Man in a boat, little man in a boat

Clitoris.

Manual release

Stimulation of the penis to orgasm using hand and fingers, aka hand job, hand release.

Massage

A method of treating the body for remedial or hygienic purposes, including but not limited to rubbing, stroking, kneading, or tapping with the hand or an instrument or both. It may, but does not necessarily, include sexual stimulation. Sensual Massage indicates a massage with sexual stimulation (usually a hand job).

MBR

Multiple Bell Ringing (MSOG).

Mediterranean

Anal sex or analingus, e.g. “She took me on a trip to the Mediterranean.”. See also Greek.

Menu

The services generally considered available from a particular ASP.

merkin

Pubic hair wig / toupee. Also, something George W. Bush has repeatedly said he is proud to be.

MFF

Threesome designation: Male, female, female.

MFM

Threesome designation: male, female, male.

MG

Massage Girl.

MIB

Man in blue, law enforcement officer.

Mileage

A subjective term that describes value for money and/or how accommodating an ASP is. Good mileage usually means she either charges less than average, provides better L/A/S than average, or both.

MILF

Mom/Mother I’d Like to Fuck.

Missionary

Also mish. A position for sexual intercourse where the man is on top.

MJ

Massage Job.

ML

1. Make Love
2. Massage Lady

MMF

Threesome designation: male, male, female.

Mohawk

A pubic hair style leaving a narrow strip of hair in the middle of the pubic area, aka landing strip, muff hawk, cock mohawk.

Monger

Short for whore monger. One who frequents prostitutes. See also hobbyist.

MP

1. Massage Parlor
2. Multiple Positions
3. Multiple Pops (MSOG)

MPA

Massage Parlor Attendant.

MPCFS

Multiple Positions Covered Full Service.

MPOS

Multiple Positions Oral Sex.

MSOG

Multiple Shots On Goal, also Multiple Pops. The ASP allows you the opportunity to climax more than once during the session.

Mummification

Wrapping a person up with layers material in order to immobilize them (nose and mouth are left open for breathing). Used to induce the feeling of utter helplessness. Can be considered a form of sensory deprivation.

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NC/NS, NCNS

No Call / No Show. See also no-show.

Newbie

Newb, a novice hobbyist or novice ASP.

NGP

Non/Not Genuine Photos.

NMG

No-Money Guys. Hobbyists who are on a strict (generally low) budget for hobbying.

Nooner

A lunch-time or afternoon session, popular with married hobbyists.

Non-pro

A person who makes her/himself available for sexual encounters for financial gain only occasionally (possibly to meet some short-term financial needs). May be less discreet than a provider and more interested in a relationship. Some argue that ‘the line’ is more definitive: if you take money, then you are a professional.

No-show

When an ASP or hobbyist doesn’t show up for an appointment and has not contacted the other party in advance to cancel or warn of problems in making the appointment. A very annoying and, unfortunately, too common occurrence in the hobby. When the offending party doesn’t call afterwards to offer an explanation and/or apology the situation is referred to as a No-Show/No-Call (NS/NC) and is considered an even more egregious offense.

No-touch

No touching allowed. (e.g. no-touch Jack shack, no-touch strip club).

NQBC

Non-quitter, but covered. CBJ to completion.

NQBS

Non-quitter, but spitter. BBBJTC and spits your ejaculate.

NQNS

No Quit No Spit; oral sex performed to completion with swallowing.

NSA

No Strings Attached.

NS/NC

No Show / No Call. see also no-show.

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O, O’s

Orgasm or orgasms.

Off the clock

Activities that occur with an ASP that she chooses not to charge for. (e.g. “We had lunch off-the-clock“).

ONS

One Night Stand.

OTC

Oral To Completion. Fellatio to orgasm.

Out

As in “outed”. Private, personal information on a hobbyist or an ASP is made public. e.g. Someone’s real name and address is posted to a public forum.

Outcall

The ASP comes to the client’s location.

Out of the closet

Being open about one’s (LGBT) sexual orientation.

OVK

Over the knee spanking – bending a submissive over one’s knee and striking his or her buttocks with either an open hand or a cane, paddle, whip, etc.

OVN

Overnight.

OWO

Oral Without, fellatio without a condom, aka BBBJ, UTF.

OWOTC

Oral Without Condom To Completion.

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P2P

Privates to privates: rubbing genitalia together without insertion.

P4P

Pay for Play. Refers to the concept of paying for sex.

Papasan

Male manager of an asian massage parlor.

Party favors

Drugs.

Party hat

Condom.

PFF

Pussy For Free (a myth).

Pearl necklace

Man ejaculates on woman’s neck and/or chest, trying to produce a white ‘decoration’.

Pegging

Anal penetration of a male by a female with the help of either a buttplug or strap-on.

PIITB

Put it in the bum/butt.

Pillow queen

Someone who likes to be on the receiving end of sex without much reciprocation.

Pimp

A person (generally a man) who solicits clients for a prostitute.

Pink boxing

A slang term for anal or vaginal fisting.

PIV

Penis in Vagina.

PL

Pathetic Loser.

PM

Prostate massage or Private message (on a forum).

PO

Phone operator.

Ponygirl or ponyboy

A popular roleplay fantasy that sees the submissive transform into a pony with the help of a harness, reins, gag bit, and a tail attached to a butt plug. The “pony” is expected to prance and/or pull a cart.

Pooner

A hobbyist who is immersed in the hobby culture. He may be very involved with the review boards and/or private exchange of information on ASPs and the hobby.

Pop, pops

Orgasms. An ASP may allow a client to have more than one orgasm during the session (e.g. more than one or multiple pops allowed).

POS

Pussy on the Side. Usually referring to hobbyists in relationships who are getting some POS.

Power dyke

A lesbian who has gained a position of power, either within the LGBT community, or in the world at large.

Professional-only

Also gentleman-only, businessmen-only. A subjective request used in ASP advertising as a pre-screen for clients. The ASP posts this in hopes of attracting “better” clientele.

Provider

Prostitute.

PS

Private Show (Dance only).

PV

Private Viewing (Dance only).

PSE

Porn Star Experience. A session that gives the feeling of being in a Porn or XXX Movie or like having a date with a Porn Star. As with the Girlfriend Experience (GFE), a PSE is not very well defined and definitions will vary wildly. It generally refers more to the tone & tenor of the session (totally wild!) than to specific services provided, but many believe PSE should include the possibility of DATY, UTF, Greek, DFK, NQNS, Russian, COF and a broad array of FS positions.

Puffies or puffers

Breasts where the entire areola appears ‘puffy’, enlarged, or swollen.

Punk

A male prostitute.

Punter

A British slang term for a hobbyist.

Pup play

A variant of animal play where a submissive acts like a puppy: barks, whines, eats from a bowl, and generally obeys the master or faces punishment.

PV

Private Viewing. A session that is most often limited to a striptease and self-service. Usually in the context of a Strip Club.

PVC

Polyvinyl chloride. In skin-tight fetish clothing, a shiny substitute for more expensive materials: leather, rubber and latex. “PVC” is also used as a generic term for PVC proper, latex, vinyl and leather.

PW

Pussy Whipped. Adjective describing a guy controlled by a girl because she gives him sex.

PYT

Pretty Young Thing.

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Queef

An emission of air from the vagina, especially when noisy, aka vaginal fart or vart.

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R & T

Rub and Tug. A massage followed by a hand job.

RA

Relaxation Assistant.

Raincoat

condom.

Raw

Sex without condom.

RCA

Reverse Cowgirl Anal.

RCG

See Reverse cowgirl.

Red wings

The ‘badge’ a hobbyist earns for performing oral sex (cunnilingus) on an ASP who is menstruating.

REQ

Request. Used in the subject line of a post to indicate the body contains a request for information. See also 411.

REV

Review. Used in the subject line of a post to indicate the body contains review of an ASP.

Reverse cowgirl

Woman rides on top, facing away.

Reverse half-and-half

Sexual intercourse followed by oral sex to completion.

Reverse massage

The client massages the ASP.

Reverse oral

The client performs oral sex on the ASP.

Review

A critical evaluation of a provider. May include information on her looks, attitude and service.

Rimming or rimjob

Analingus; oral stimulation of the anus.

RLD

Red Light District. Area rich with prostitution.

RMP

Russian massage parlor.

R.O.B. or ROB

Run/Rip Off Bitch. Individuals posing as providers take the money and run without providing any services, aka Cash and Dash.

Role play

Also roleplay. Acting out sexual fantasies in a specific scenario, where participants are assigned roles: dog – owner, nurse – patient, teacher – student, etc.

Role reversal

Same as pegging – penetration of male’s anus by a female with a strap-on dildo

Roman

An orgy.

RPG

Role playing games.

Roman shower

Vomit play.

RTF

Return To Fuck.

RTFF

Read The Fucking Forum.

Rubber

1) Material popular with BDSM practitioners for its tactile characteristics; 2) Items – primarily special clothing – made of this material; compare to PVC; 3) Condom.

Russian

Rubbing a penis between ASP‘s breasts. Usually results in pearl necklace.

Russian (in Australia)

Short sex session, aka a “Quickie”.

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Safe

Sexual activity in which various measures, such as the use of condoms or dental dams, are taken to avoid diseases transmitted by sexual contact. e.g. All activities were safe.

San Juan Capistrano

BBBJTC and the ASP swallows. See also CIM, BBBJNQNS, birdwatching.

Sandbag, sandbagger

A subjective term for a review (or reviewer) that attempts to mislead the reader by giving unwarranted praise to a provider.

Sans

Without. e.g. She provided French sans beret = BBBJ.

Scat

Defecation on one’s partner or feces play.

Screening

An ASP or agency does a pre-session background check on a new client. E.g. collecting verifiable personal info such as the hobbyist’s real name, place of employment, home or work phone, home or work address, and/ or a referral from a trusted provider. Upfront deposits may also be used as a screening tool to hedge against no-shows.

Self-review

Also Self-post. An ASP or agency poses as a hobbyist, and posts a highly positive review of herself or agency to increase business.

Self service

Masturbation. e.g. “It was a self-servicejack shack” = no contact with the dancer, but the man can masturbate.

Semi pro

An escort whose main source of income is something other than escorting.

Sensory deprivation

Restricting somebody’s ability to see, hear, smell, taste and/or touch through the use of blindfolds, earmuffs, hoods, etc.

Sensual Massage

Also SM. Indicates a massage with sexual stimulation (usually a hand job).

Session

The time spent with an ASP.

Sex worker

Catch all phrase sometimes used to describe prostitutes. May also be used in the context of strippers, peep show workers, topless waitresses.

SFH

Sex For Hire.

SG

Street Girl.

Shemale

Transsexual, particularly one who is living as a woman, but hasn’t had SRS. Penis may or may not get erect.

Shill

A person who writes unsolicited positive commentary about an ASP in a discussion forum to ‘suck up’ to the ASP or who writes unwarranted positive reviews in exchange for discounts or special favors from an ASP or agency.

Shots on goal

Attempts to reach orgasm. e.g. ‘She allows multiple shots on goal’ means she allows more than one orgasm per session if the client is able and interested. See MSOG.

Sixty nine

Partners perform oral sex on each other simultaneously. See also 69.
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Slam, slammed

An unwarranted or overzealous harsh review or abusive criticism of an ASP or agency.

Snowball

ASP takes ejaculate in her mouth and returns it via kissing to the ejaculator.

SO

Significant Other. Spouse or partner in a (non-casual) relationship.

SOG

Shot(s) on goal, attempt(s) at orgasm.

Soixante-neuf

69. Partners perform oral sex on each other simultaneously. See also 69.

SOMF

Sat On My Face.

SOP

Stantard Operating Procedure.

South of the border

Genital region.

Southern France

Fellatio without a condom. See also French, BBBJ.

SP

Service Provider, prostitute. See also ASP.

Spanish (Australian usage)

Penis between her breasts, Russian.

Spanish (USA usage)

Penis, finger or toy comes out of the ASP’s ass, and goes directly into the ASP’s mouth. See also Dirty Sanchez, ATM.

spanking

Slapping or striking somebody’s buttocks with the palm of the hand or an object like paddle, hairbrush, slapper, etc. A form of punishment / humiliation.

Spinner

A very petite provider. So petite in fact, she could easily spin around the client’s erect penis in a position like Asian Cowgirl. One possible etymology: from the action reminiscent of the 1970’s toy, “Sit ‘n’ Spin”.

Squirting, squirter

Female ejaculation, an ASP who ejaculates.

SRS

Sexual Reassignment Surgery.

ST

Short Time.

Starfish

Anus or Unresponsive ASP.

STD

Sexually Transmitted Disease.

Sting

A female police officer poses as an ASP to apprehend unsuspecting clients, or a male police officer poses as a client to apprehend unsuspecting ASPs.

Stone butch lesbian

A lesbian who gets her pleasure from pleasing her partner. She does not like to be touched sexually.

STR

Short Term Relationship.

Street action

Prostitution that is solicited on public streets. Prostitutes (usually on foot) are picked up by clients in motor vehicles. Sexual acts may occur in the vehicle, or at another agreed upon location.

Stroll

A street, strip, or neighborhood that sees heavy street action.

Submission

In BDSM, giving freely of oneself for the pleasures of others, subordinating oneself (with agreed upon limits).

Submissive

In BDSM, a person trained by a dominant. Often shortened to Sub. See Submission.

Sunshine, sunny

Without a condom (i.e. no raincoat).

SW

1. Street walker
2. Sex Worker

Sybian

A mechanical sex device shaped as a half-barrel with a dildo mounted in the middle.

SYT

Sweet Young Thing.

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Take care of business

Payment is made to provider. e.g. “She wanted to take care of business first.”.

Teabag, teabagging

To dunk ones scrotum into the open mouth of another person.

Tie and tease

A game of control over a partner’s orgasm with common use of physical restraints. Often a part of tease and denial.

Tease and denial

Also known as erotic denial, orgasm denial. A mild sexual torture in which a high state of sexual arousal is maintained for an extended time without climax.

TAMP

Therapeutic Asian Massage Parlor.

TER

The erotic reviews site, adult services classifieds board, and hobby discussion forums.

TG

Transgender. Catch-all term for transvestites, transsexuals, shemales, and CDs.

TGTBT

Too Good To Be True.

Throne job

Self-service. Refers to an establishment that doesn’t offer FS. The premises will only have a large chair or “throne” for you to sit on and masturbate while the woman dances for you.

Tina

Crystal meth.

Tipping required

The ASP demands more than the advertised price in order to perform, or bargains hard for various services. See also upselling, hidden charges.

To completion

Until orgasm.

TOFTT

Take One For The Team. What a hobbyist is said to do when they see an enigmatic ASP. Some argue that a hobbyist is only TOFTT when the experience ends up to be a bad experience. Others argue that if the hobbyist doesn’t report back in some way, e.g., with a review, then the hobbyist has not TOFTT.

Top

In homosexual parlance: the active partner. In BDSM: the dominant.

Toss the salad

Analingus.

Training

1) BDSM slavery; a way of letting the Submissive understand that the Dominant is their master. 2) Any specific scenario used to convey the message from #1: slave training, pup training, pony training, etc.

Trans, tranny

An inclusive term, encompassing transgender, transsexual and other gender variant people.

Transgender

A person whose gender expression is different from how society says they are “supposed” to be. Transgender can be an umbrella term for cross-dressers, transsexuals, intersex people and other gender-variant individuals.

Transsexual

A person with the urge to be the opposite sex. They may or may not choose to have gender reassignment surgery.

Translated French, TF

Oral sex with a condom.

Translation, translator

Condom, e.g., “She spoke fluent French without a translator” = BBBJ.

Transvestite

A person who sometimes wears clothes traditionally worn by and associated with the opposite sex; typically a male who cross-dresses occasionally by habit or compulsion.

Trick

1. A sex act for money, as in ‘She is turning tricks‘.
2. A man who patronizes prostitutes, as in ‘That trick was a FOBU’.

Tri F

A devotee to the “Find them, Fuck them, Forget them” strategy.

Trip to islands

Greek, anal. Also a “tour of the islands”.

Trolling

1. The act of driving around looking for a prostitute. As in cruising.
2. Posting to a discussion board with the intent to anger or incite others. One who does so is referred to as a ‘troll’.

TS

1. Transsexual. A person with the urge to be the opposite sex. They may or may not choose to have gender reassignment surgery.
2. Table Shower.

TTA

Tight Tan Ass.

Tuft

Pubic hair.

TUMA

Tongue Up My Ass.

Turning tricks

Prostitution.

TV

Transvestite. A person who sometimes wears clothes traditionally worn by and associated with the opposite sex; typically a male who cross-dresses occasionally by habit or compulsion.

TVSW

Transvestite Street Walker.

Two Call System

The general location is revealed during the first call; location specifics are revealed on the second call.

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Uncle Leo

A law enforcement officer.

umbrella

Condom.

Uncovered, or untranslated

Without a condom.

Upselling

An ASP takes the advertised fee upfront, but in the midst of the session she asks for more money for more services. (e.g. She might undress and give a massage for the advertised $$, but then ask for an additional $ for French, or $$ for FS, etc.), aka hidden charges.

UTF

Untranslated French. Oral sex without a condom.

UTR

Under The Radar; an ASP who maintains a very low profile; generally does not advertise, does not accept reviews, does not have a website and does not participate in hobby forums.

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verbal humiliation / abuse

Issuing insults and negative epithets to produce belittlement, from which excitement and/or arousal can be obtained. Giving is done by the dominant, who produces the humiliation, while receiving is done by the submissive, who is the object.

Vanilla

Plain genital sex without any extras.

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WAH

Wild Ass Humping.

water sports

Urination play. see also golden shower.

Wax play

Dripping melted wax on the submissive‘s naked skin. This activity requires thorough understanding of the material that the candles are made of. Eyewear is recommended.

Weeklies

Alternative weekly newspapers. These often contain various adult service listings, including massage and escort advertisements. e.g. The Village Voice, San Francisco Bay Guardian, The Stranger.

WF

Wild Fuck.

WG

Working Girl. A prostitute.

Whip

In the strictest sense, a strip of leather attached to a handle, whip commonly describes any object used for beating a submissive: whips proper, canes, crops, paddles, slappers, etc. See English.

White knight

A hobbyist who defends or “comes to the rescue” of a provider who has been reviewed or spoken of poorly, regardless of whether the review or comments are accurate, aka defender.

Whoremonger

One who habitually patronizes prostitutes.

WIR

Would I Repeat, Would I Return, Would I Recommend.

With

With a condom (e.g. French with = CBJ).

Without

Without a condom. (e.g. French without = BBBJ).

WL

Working Lady.

WOA

Word of Advice.

Womyn

An alternative spelling of woman or women often favored by feminists.

Working girl

A prostitute.

WTF

What the f#$k.

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YL

Young Lady.

YMMV

Your Mileage May Vary. A overused, common sense disclaimer meant to convey that an ASP may do things with one person, but not with another. Often used as a caveat, “Don’t accuse me of a false report if she doesn’t do the same with you.”.

YMMV Girl

An ASP who is known for being inconsistent in her attitude and service. i.e. Gets hot and cold reviews.

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